Go on Real Dates

Dating Tip #3: Real relationships between adults, start with real dates. 

When you are going on a 1st date with a person you've never met IRL, or you don't them know well, please go on a real date! The pattern I have seen far too ofen is:

1) You meet on a dating app (or at the gym etc.), & start texting

2) Both people enjoy texting/talking

3) He (usually it's a him) asks to hang out

4) Imitation 1st date ensues. She (often) is left disappointed, especially if there was intimacy without follow-up.

If you don't want to go on an imitation first date, but you still want to get to know the other person- feel free to say "no thank you" and suggest a specific REAL date. (Many men who are good guys are bad at dating and he may need a hint). If he's into you, he will take it and you will have a real date. If he was suggesting an imitation date but doesn't want a real one, you have just saved yourself some time!